by Rachel Swan
Sex in the City actress Cynthia Nixon went against the grain — and stirred up controversy — by telling New York Times Magazine that in her case, being gay is a choice. "I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not," Nixon said, defending her argument. She admitted to being in an awkward position, as a public figure going against the conventional wisdom that biology is destiny, a premise that many LGBT activists use to gird themselves against right wing zealots and social conservatives.
What's interesting, blogger Pam Spaulding points out, is that Nixon refuses to merely accept a bisexual identity, which seems to be the obvious default for someone who is "gay by choice." (If it's a choice, there must be two sides to choose from.) "Our culture acknowledges a binary view of sexual orientation, so it’s only natural that for those who are bisexual, find this out about themselves later, as they struggle with that socially enforced binary rule," Spaulding wrote. John Aravosis supplied a much harsher critique on his AMERICAblog, in which he argued that Nixon — perhaps unwittingly — towed the line for conservatives, who accuse gays of engage in same-sex relationships more as a willful provocation than a natural preference. Aravosis accused Nixon of hindering the recent civil rights gains of LGBT Americans.
"...A "certain section of our community" is concerned?" he demanded. "Yeah, that would be the people whose asses are on the front line fighting for your civil rights, who actually know how all of this works."